8 Ways to Ease Lonely Mum Syndrome
This week we came across an article in the Huffington Post and it got us thinking about how we're not the only ones with Lonely Mum Syndrome (ironic, right?) We put our heads together and wrote a list of our top 8 ways to ease the loneliness.
1. Put your walking shoes on
2. Find a local activity
The thing about local events and groups is that they aren't always that well advertised, so you need to keep your ear to the ground, ask around, check out community noticeboards at the supermarket and the library, and generally act like a detective. Some of our faves are: Kangatraining, SPACE, Wriggle and Rhyme , Swimming lessons, Mainly Music, Sports for Tots, Baby Sensory, and Plunket Play Groups.
3. Start a conversation
The more conversations you start, the easier it gets. I had to get Michelle to help me write this because she's really good and she'll talk to anyone, I still have a bit of work to do!
4. Get social (media)
On the flipside, there's a whole community of mums on Instagram and Facebook, I know I feel like I've found my people on instagram, sometimes I wonder if they get me more than my real life friends!
How to find your people on Instagram: Find and follow other mums, like and comment on their photos, join in the conversation, and upload photos yourself even if they're just of your morning coffee. One of the good things about instagram is it makes you a better photographer, so keep at it! Our next tip is semi-weird, I know my husband would think I'm weird for suggesting it, but it's what I do... search by location or hashtags for your favourite places; if there is a playground that you go to regularly, look at the other photos at that playground (using the location, and/or hashtag) then like, comment, and follow people who post using that location / hashtag, if you like what they're about. Same goes for cafes and restaurants that you frequent (ha, that one's half a joke, who goes to restaurants anymore!?!) One of us (not saying who) saw a mum at a cafe taking photos, then after the mum left, went onto instagram and searched through the photos that people had tagged at the cafe, found the mums photos, liked it, and followed her. Not weird right?
How to find your people on Facebook: Join groups that are talking about things that you're interested in, whether it's parenting styles, babywearing, home decor, shopping, gardening, gluten-free cooking, whatever really! Try not to just be a lurker, try to comment and join in the conversation too. If you feel like there is too much drama in the group for you, simple, un-join!!
5. Reach out
6. Facebook groups
7. Talk to your partner
For those mamas doing it alone, we massively salute you!
Facebook live video is a new addition, and lots of bloggers are doing live streams there, some of them are even doing it on a Friday and Saturday night, it's just like having a social life again! Some our fave live videos come from:
With the Whittakers
Rocky and Ruby
Happy Mum Happy Child